9 Steps to Stop the Tears of Homework

Homework time for some families can be really stressful with arguments, tears, fighting, bribery, threats and basically just makes everyone miserable. So here are a few tips that might help make it a more enjoyable experience for the whole household!

1. Learning Space

Create a space for the kids to do their homework where there are no distractions and they can concentrate. A corner space, a desk away from the TV, a quiet spot where other siblings won't be a bother. Ensure they have all the materials right there that they will need (pens, pencils, ruler, calculator, dictionary, scissors, glue etc).

2. Schedule

Set a regular routine for doing homework, and schedule in to other daily / weekly activities. Use a diary, a calendar, an app on your smart phone, a Kanban board or whatever works for your family. This helps ensure they have finished other activities and are aware in advance that it is time to move on to their homework. No surprises. Schools often use a diary or notes home to parents, so check for those daily. Again, no surprises!

3. Don't do it for them

Whatever you do, resist the temptation to just do the homework for them! If they are having trouble prompt them to discuss the question, show you how to do work it out, even get them to teach the concept to you as if you know nothing at all! If something is late or overdue, they need to learn the consequences of not getting their work in on time. But looking back at point number 2, make sure they have a routine.

4. Be positive

Positive language and praise is really important. If the word "homework" makes the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, call it something else. Give it a new name. Something relative but happier sounding like Activity Time, or make up a new word completely like "Boplaboom". A bit of a laugh takes some of the pressure off. And be conscious of how you speak when you're helping with homework. Be sure to be encouraging and never use words like dumb, stupid, idiot.

5. Food for thought

Be mindful of what and when they last ate. If homework time is straight after school ensure they have had a good healthy snack to ward off the afternoon brain fades, but a massive sugar hit will give them a big high, with an equally big low. Steer clear of sugary snacks before homework like ice-creams, biscuits, lollies.

6. Be a role model 

This is a perfect opportunity to get your own homework done at the same time. Take the chance to catch up on some reading, write that email or letter you've been putting off, pay some bills, do some research on something you've been thinking about. If everyone is doing the same thing at the same time the kids won't feel like they are alone or isolated. For the younger kids who maybe aren't at school yet or don't have homework, give them some colouring or reading to do at the same time too. Get everyone in on it, and the routine will develop naturally. The little kids always want to be just like their big brothers & sisters!

7. Be fun

Try playing games, using props or crafts to make the learning fun. Play "teachers" where you sit and learn from your child, put on little plays and performances to cover the concepts, or find relevant games that can help reinforce the topics. 

8. Talk to the teacher

If things are going really bad and none of the above ideas have any impact. Try talking to the teacher at school to see if they have any ideas or suggestions to use at home. They will know exactly where your child is having difficulties, and teachers LOVE being asked for their opinions and ideas. But you have to be open to their advice. They are trained, and do know what they are doing.

9. Difficulties / Disabilities

Finally, once you've spoken to the teacher if things are still going really pear shaped you might find that underneath the tears and arguments there could be a valid reason why your child is struggling with their homework. There could be a learning disability or difficulty going on that has not been diagnosed. Many kids are very good at disguising their difficulties with acting the class clown, or appearing to be naughty and distracted. So speak again to the teacher and take their advice and seek professional help to get a diagnosis or help if needed.

All these ideas and more are covered in Learning that's Fun. Actions you can take TODAY to have an impact on homework time in your house!